IT 030: Ever Try To Make Yourself Invisible? Read This.
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Hey introverted girl bosses!
Welcome to Intuitive Tuesday, the radio show helping intuitives, introverts and empaths manifest the conscious and abundant life that they desire.
Today, I want to share something that has just come to the surface for me. The simple awareness of what's going on with this for me has already brought a massive shift for me, so if there are those of you out there who are also dealing with this, then I want to bring your awareness to it.
Today's Podcast is for you if you've ever tried to make yourself take up less time, less space, and even less money than what feels good, what feels expansive, and what feels abundant.
Do you allow yourself to take up time and space?
What about money for things that you want to buy... for pure joy?
As an online entrepreneur and success coach, I have a lot more time and space than I've ever had.
And I noticed that I have a tendency to squander it away!
And if you're thinking... I have a corporate job, and I would never squander away my extra time if I had it.
I totally get it - that was me, literally less than two years ago when I was in a corporate job.
I used to say that if I didn't have a full time job, and I had all day to work on my business, then I would always be so productive with my time.
But here I am... I noticed this pattern of whenever I had too much time, I found myself wasting it. Playing games, checking my email, texting my friends, scrolling through social media. And when I had too much energy, I used it.
One of my favorite energy draining things to do when I have a ton of energy, is doing a deep clean on the house (and I really go for it!). After, my energy is gone. Now I have less of an excuse to do that because I hired a housekeeper, but that was one of my favorite excuses to spend energy.
In regards to my space, I tended to walk quickly, avoided making eye contact with strangers, and I found myself sort of shrinking myself down and becoming ninja stealth mode.
I asked myself... why am I squandering away my time and my space, what's causing this, is it because I'm an introvert... ?
If that's what you're thinking, the answer is no, it's not because you're an introvert.
I realized that I did this to get back into my comfort zone of having a set amount of time, energy, space, money... and it was a habit I didn't realize I had.
And this habit is something that I picked up as a child, as a young teen, when I had to make myself smaller and less noticeable in my family because it meant that I was safe, safe from being ridiculed, safe from being laughed at, safe from getting attention, safe from being thought stupid.
So the less attention I attracted to myself, the less I felt these things. The more I was able to be a stealthy ninja the whole day, the more I could survive the day without feeling embarrassed.
This is a childhood belief that I was walking around with all day without realizing it.
Why does this matter?
It matters because the more present you are, the more successful you can be. The more success, joy and abundance will be attracted to you.
Take up the damn space! This means that you'll begin to attract to you more joy, abundance and success.
By being small, and rushing, and not having enough time... you'll attract more of that.
By shrinking yourself down, you'll always be shrunk down.
By always squandering away money and energy, you'll have and attract the amount of money and energy that is perhaps less than what you desire.
In Think And Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill touches on the concept of having to fill your current space in order to move on to the next level.
Think about the theory of evolution. Think about your personal evolution. Can you recall a time when you evolved somehow? Did you more than take up your previous space?
When you more than fill your current space, you can't help but evolve.
So what does this have to do with your business?
This has everything to do with your business!
Because if you don't claim your space, your time, your right to fully exist where you are right now, where you are today... you won't move forward in your business or be able to sustain success.
You have to feel everything now, and you have to become a magnet for the expansion that you desire. You have to expand into yourself now and to be grateful and be present for everything that you have now because you will more than fill your space and you won't be able to help evolving.
So how do you do this?
No more rushing, no more shrinking, no more squandering your time and space, your right to exist.
So if this resonates with you, I'm glad you listened to this. Your awareness to this is a major first step, and I also have a practice that will help you.
I want you to breathe into the feeling of the expansion, of taking up time and space and energy. How does that feel?
Allow yourself to experience pure laughter and joy and happiness, even if it feels foreign or silly at first... if you've been so used to making yourself small, making your joy small, play, laugh, dance, sing. Put down the blinds and do your thing, feel amazing because that is what you're going to attract to you.
Become aware of yourself, become present in every moment.
When you find yourself feeling tight or making yourself feel small, notice it! And come back to breathing, and come back to the mantra "it is safe for me to take up time and space."
Or if for you it's money, or energy, you can come back to the mantra "it is safe for me to take up time, money, etc."
I also have 3 bonus reads if you want to deep dive into this topic:
Jonathan Livingston Seagull by Richard Bach
The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks
The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller
So that's all for this episode of Intuitive Tuesday! I hope that this has served you, and I'll see you next Tuesday for the next episode of Intuitive Tuesday.